The thing on my mind lately is attraction and the different types. I talked to a friend a while ago about how different words have significantly different meanings, for example you wouldn't call a baby toy "sexy" and if you do it sounds funny because of the irony. I also had a solo girl night, which is essentially like a slumber party . . . by myself. I watched the righteous chick flick "He's Just Not That Into You" and one of the characters was driving me nuts cause she was so utterly happy to be called hot by lusty, no good, males. I kept thinking she should want them to say something about her rather than her body. Then I got to thinking: do I do this? Do I want people to complement the way I look rather than the way I am?
Anyway, I made a list of the attraction words and I picked the one I would want to be called the most. All of them are good, but it's a matter of good better and best here.
Lets start with Hot: 1. having or giving off heat. 2. having or causing a sensation of great bodily heat.
Okay so the definitions for "hot" are all about temperature, but the definition still helps me understand what we mean when we call someone hot. Basically, it's an indirect way of saying "they turn me on". When I think of hot, I think about wash board abs, nice toned arms, and a good strong jaw line. I focus on certain body parts rather than a person as a whole. To me, a hot guy is someone I just wanna look at! Just look at him all the time! Stare! Never look away. Because being hot is being visually appealing, eye candy, its almost sexy but not quite sexy. Yet.
Once a guy I barely knew took me on a date, and all he would say about me in text and at dinner was that I was hot. I hated it, I wanted to run away, I wanted to never see him again. Gross. I'm way more than just hot. If you're not my good friend, a girl, my boyfriend, or this guy down in the picture, do not call me hot.
Sexy: 1. concerned predominantly or excessively with sex, risque, 3. excitingly appealing, glamorous.
Sexy is what Victoria's secret models are. I'm not a man, but I can imagine how they feel about victorious secret models. Sexy people are the people you look at and wish you were not JUST looking at them. Sexy is the word used to describe someone you want to touch and have sex with! Sexy people are often objects.
In all my life, to my knowledge, I have never been called sexy.
Cute: 1. attractive, especially in a dainty way, pleasingly pretty.
Cute is what we call the stuffed animal you sleep with every night. Cute is what we use to describe children. Cute is buttons. Cute is good! It deals with looks, big eyes, little nose, childlike features. But it also has a splash of personality. A cute personality is a childlike personality; happy, playful, bubbly! Cute is an innocent attraction.
A lot of people call me cute. Usually after I say something kinda stupid and I smile and, well, act like a kid.
Adorable: 1. very attractive or delightful, charming. 2. Worthy of being adored.
To me, adorable is a more extreme version of cute. It's not as much the big eyes thing and much more the personality thing. And it's not so much just sitting there appreciating the person, it's actively adoring them. Everything about them! When we adore people, we adore all the way. Adore is also a synonym for love!
That is why I love to be called adorable! It makes me feel loved. Which, to me, is a big complement.
Pretty: 1. pleasing or attractive to the eye, as by delicacy or gracefulness.
Pretty things are like flowers. Pretty people are nice to look at, because their features are pleasing and they make you feel happy. Pretty people are the people who walk around like gazelles and sit down gracefully while you stumble around, admire from afar, and you wonder how on earth they move like that. Prettiness and elegance go hand in hand. Pretty is also an iced cake, a necklace, and a princess. I am none of those things, and I always feel weird when someone tells me I'm pretty, it doesn't fit me.
Gorgeous: 1. splendid or sumptuous in appearance, magnificent.
When I think of gorgeous, I think of angels. Big perfect curls from hair commercials. Gorgeous means perfect. That person you know who is simply perfect! James Franco's face is gorgeous, as if it was chizzled by the gods! Glorious!
People don't usually go to the extremes of calling me gorgeous.
Beautiful: having beauty; possessing qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.; delighting in the senses or mind.
Wow. If you didn't read the definition, go read it. If you already read it, read it again. Beautiful is nature; sunsets, rivers, trees. Beautiful is acts of kindness. Beautiful is emotions, poetry, music and life itself. It isn't just about how someone looks, beauty is every little quality about a person. It's what you see, hear, feel, and think about a person. To me it's a complete person, someone who is her/himself 100%. It's like the ocean, beautiful on the outside, but also beautiful deep down, even the ugly parts have a certain beauty about them. Unfortunately when I google "beautiful women", I see a lot of hot and sexy women, but not a ton of beauty. I think the world has skewed what it means to be beautiful.
In the few times I have been told I'm beautiful, I have felt like no other complement could have been better. Beautiful is best. Above all, I strive to be beautiful.
I hope this helped you gain a better understanding of the meaning behind the words. I hope you adjust your vocabulary accordingly. And I hope you realize which you would prefer to be called and try to act more like the one you want to be rather than what others seem to think you should be.
